The Elders recently read a good little book on the biblical basis for church leadership. What I liked most about the book was the constant reminder that
the church is a Spirit-led, Bible-based family rather than a state-regulated corporation. Every page was dripping with Scripture.
The author humbly closed the book by answering the simple question, “What if I disagree?” I couldn’t add to or improve his advice in any way, so I’ve plagiarized it in its entirety.
For the Kingdom,
-bill
What Should I Do if I Disagree with How My Church is Led and Organized?
You need to begin by searching the
Scriptures to make sure that your convictions are true, searching your
heart to make sure that your attitude is humble, and searching your
motives to make sure that they are to lovingly build up your church.
If you still disagree with how your church is organized and governed, you should humbly speak with one of the senior leaders in a way that is respectful, not demanding, and not divisive. You should lovingly articulate your concerns and desire to see everything done in a way that honors Jesus according to Scripture, including the organizational structure of the church government.
At this point your church leader may agree and bring your thoughts for the consideration of the other senior leaders. Or, they may disagree with you. In the case that your church is unwilling or unable (because of something such as a legal denominational obligation) to operate in a certain manner to change, then you are left with two options.
First, you can stay in your church and lovingly submit to the leaders and structures that are in place, seeking as best as you are able to build your church up and see it grow in its ability to seek the transformation of your city.
Second, you can kindly and lovingly leave your church in a way that is not divisive or disrespectful and attend another church where you can submit to both the church leaders and their form of church government in good conscience.
I offer one final word of caution for the idealistic neatniks who may read this: every church is filled with imperfect people like you who are led by imperfect leaders like me and governed by imperfect systems like the ones outlined in this book. The goal for yourself, your church, and its leaders must be faithfulness and not perfection, so it behooves you to start drinking decaf and to lighten up a bit in Jesus’ name.